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Archive for December, 2008

Who you ARE, is more important then what you DO

Tuesday, December 16th, 2008

The totality of who you are is what creates the signal that the entire universe responds to. Who and what shows up in your life mirrors back what you are attracting (law of attraction).

The idea behind the law of attraction is that if you think something, you will attract it. But that is not the case. The universe responds to how you FEEL, your thoughts drive what emotions come. So yes, what you think matters but what you feel as a result of what you think is where the real power lies. What we think and feel (the whole of who we are) creates a magnetic field that pulls to us (and into our reality) the sum of who we are (our personal resonance/quality).

Love attracts love…
Fear attracts things to be afraid of…
Joy attracts more joy…
Feeling anger attracts things to be angry about…
Forgiveness attracts forgiving people..
Happiness attracts more happiness…

Did you ever notice …
people that look for the good in others often find it?
when you have a bad day, it gets worse…a great day just gets better?
if you love what you already have, more of what you want shows up
if you feel lack, more lack comes
if you laugh, there are more things to laugh at

We can dissect the science, blame the world (or others) for our troubles or simply try using the law of attraction at the root (how we feel and who we are). When you try it, nothing in the world will be able to convince you that you don’t have the control. The results are hard to dismiss. You have the power to choose who you are going to be in every situation.

We may not be able to control every situation, but we can upgrade our response. With each upgrade, we improve our “attractor field”, until an entirely different field shows up in our reality of a higher quality (people, events and outcomes). You cannot get to where you want to be from where you are. You need to BE (in the present moment) that which you wish to experience before it shows up and from that place you draw it to yourself.

Simply put, if you want to feel peace, joy, abundance and wellbeing then you must “vibrate” those qualities NOW in this very present moment (before what you want shows up). That is really how the law of attraction works……at least for me! :)

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People remember how you make them feel, not what you say

Sunday, December 14th, 2008

Ah the topic of feelings! They get so overlooked and yet make/break key relationships, drive business, patient satisfaction scores and impact our entire lives…and yet, in almost every consulting job I have had, it was necessary for me to remind leaders, co-workers and partners to be mindful of how they make people feel with the choices that they make.

Keys to mastering the tricky terrain of “other people’s feelings”:

* Some people chose to treat people the way they like to be treated. Wrong. Learn how each person responds and make more considerate choices.

* Always, always always acknowledge someone’s negative feelings right away, if they have them. This allows the person to feel heard and understood and creates an arena for better understanding. When our negative emotions are not addressed they can fester, grow more dramatic with bad behavior or disrupt the balance of our very cells. Cancer has been linked to deep grief and unresolved pain (i.e. unexpressed negative emotion).

* Watch the body language, it tells 80% of the story. Electronic communication is very tricky in determining the tone and inflection of a message. Never assume you know where a person is coming from by reading typed words. When in doubt, call to resolve anything sensitive. Avoiding that choice, can be the point of no return.

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Painting for Charity

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

Help raise awareness for all those in need of care, support and love. Please see the below link and do what you can for the elderly around the world.

Painting for Charity,The Soul Has No Age Link & Poem

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Find a Way to Laugh

Sunday, December 7th, 2008

I think the best thing in life is laughing. It heals, transforms and bonds. In that spirit I will share several of my funniest moments.

Once a director at a Northeast hospital, I experienced many “funny” things especially with the folks I worked with. One in particular was when the manager that reported to me scanned my photo, made flyers, hung them everywhere and put 1-900-Kristin (AS A JOKE.) everywhere. Someone called the number and found out it was a real “frisky” service line. Her frantic face as she ran to collect the evidence and the irony of the number being real was too hilarious to get mad… I just had to laugh.

In San Diego doing a seminar on stress managment, I walked out while folks were in a deep meditation accidently leaving my mic on. I soon learned my entire conversation with the host (high fives and chats) were all heard by 117 people. In this case, THEY had the best laugh. Thank goodness they loved the seminar from the evals. I love folks from California!

Another prank from my assistant included filling my day planner with sparkle confetti (I mean she PACKED it). I had a big board meeting, came in all serious…opened the planner and sprayed the entire table with festive colors and stars. It certainly broke the ice.

Early in my career I was asked to teach students of an all-girls school about communications careers. It was one of my very first presentations and I was very nervous. I was dressed perfectly, had the nice briefcase and carried myself well even with all the nerves….to have my ankle bob from something on the floor, my arms swooped out, briefcase went flying across the hall to then watch my body go airborn in the school hallway. With that, I skipped the pre-planned icebreaker.

Hope my humanity can make you laugh at your own!

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10 Key Success Skills

Saturday, December 6th, 2008

1. MANAGE YOURSELF
You can not be a success in life if you don’t first manage your own. This means your health, your finances and your independance. Get into a solid routine, target the weak spots and seek education. Do the things you are afraid to do if they will make you a stronger person.

2. HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships are everything. They are a reflection of ourselves. How people treat you, how you treat them, what you say and experience from them all tells a story about you. If a relationship does not have free, flowing unconditional love then it is unhealthy. Identify the block, remove it or move on. We can only control our own thoughts and behaviors. Do your best to be your best and you will attract people into your life of that same quality.

3. GO WITHIN
A routine connection to your inner self gives you deep peace. As the waves of life challenge you, you will always be anchored. Too often the waves of life pull us away from our center. If we make it a habit to practice solitude and deep inner reflection, we will always be able to find that place of peace.

4. PURIFY
The world is a different place today. Too many unskillful humans made too many “deals” from greed and fear. The chemicals are killing us. Almost everything we consume has hormones or chemicals that the body is not designed to work with. The cells mutate or die in response (but not after a long fight). We can help our body, our kidneys, skin and liver clear away debris by improving our habits. We can upgrade what we allow ourselves to be exposed to. I always recommend that if you are new to purifying your life, these 5 things are easy/fast and impactful:
1. Shower filter (it is proven that skin absorbs chemicals into blood)
2. Use a Clear2O Filter or any brand that takes out chlorine (it mutates cells)
3. Every Sunday, buy a bunch of colorful, raw and organic fruits and veggies, cut up, put in containers and mix in all week (do not cook). Raw has electricity (i.e. “life) in them – dead food does not.
4. Change your soap to Kiss My Face Olive Oil bar
5. Stop caffeine, sugar (bread) and make water your favorite beverage

5. LAUGH AND PLAY
There is nothing better for creativity, building relationships and coming up with excellent solutions then playing and enjoying laughter. To be too serious is to be fearful. The “serious” people in life are trying to be in control but joy can only come if you let go of control. The funny thing is that as soon as you let go of control completely – you are finally IN control. The universe always rewards the brave -never the fearful.

6. FORGIVE
The healthiest thing anyone can do is to forgive. This does not mean you still allow behavior that is dishonorable. It means you open your heart to the possibility that the injury inflicted upon you was from another human being (like yourself) perhaps scared, in need of something, mindless or just unaware. Forgiveness sets you free to enjoy the present moment and whatever shows up in it!

7. LOVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF
You are a unique expression of life. There is nothing about you that is not “good”. We are all learning and growing. Enjoy your own company.

8. BE GRATEFUL
We attract in life the totality of our own thoughts and feelings. The sooner we learn this the faster we are in control of what shows up in our life. As you notice the abundance around you, more comes. As you notice the health you have, more comes. As you notice your own beauty, more comes. As you notice the love around you, move comes. Whatever you are grateful for, whatever you feel love toward – it will grow and expand. Its law.

9. CUT THE FAT AND BUILD THE MUSCLE
Keep your life simple. If you have much clutter in terms of stuff in your life on the physical level, it is often the case that on the metaphysical level there is also clutter – emotional clutter. If you have imbalances on the physcial level, then on the metaphysical level there is sure to be work to be done. Thought ALWAYS preceeds manifestation. It is a universal law. Everything physical is first in the mind.

10. LOVE
Do not give love, BE love. When you are love your eyes only see love. When you are love, you forgive before even injured becasue you feel that its love that is real, not error. When you are love you offer yourself easily and freely to others, you lift people up, you heal their wounds. Most people “give” love because they want to “receive” love. That is not love. That is an exchange. True love can only come when two whole people perceive the goodness and truth of the other. It is not love to be a half person and hope another half person will complete you. That is taking. Love is fullness expanding. Be love and everything that comes into your life will be loving.

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Your Life is What you Expect it to Be

Friday, December 5th, 2008

We each came to this planet with a choice on how we were going to live our lives. Some of us followed a common route while others responded to a hunch. In all cases, we chose. If you love who you are and how you are living your life, then good for you! Congratulations. If you do not like what you see show up in your life, change it.

You do not “paint” a life masterpiece running around copying other artist’s work. Just because a lifestyle works for one does not mean it is suited for all. Know you have the power to decide exactly what you want your life to be.

I had many advisors, recruiters and opportunites on my path. And everytime I had to make a hard decision on that track. Sometimes, I could forsee where a direction would ultimately take me, so I turned around. Other times I went right into an experience, caution aside to pay the price of abandon. What is most important about the painting of your life’s masterpiece is that you always have in your minds’ eye, what the end result will look like. You may change shades, add a “happy little bush” but a sunset it still is. True life artists know that their thoughts and their feelings create their health, wealth and life. If you do not like what is on YOUR canvas, change how you see it and the “matrix” will adjust to meet your new perception.

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The Best Way to Love Life…

Friday, December 5th, 2008

is to LIVE LIFE to the fullest. I think when we live out loud, we are fearless, loving and free. We have open hearts and open minds. We expect little from others but that they treat us with dignity and respect. We try to forgive where we can and let go where we can. We decide that life is too wonderful to waste on any thought form that makes us less worthy then we know we are – as kindness can often be viewed as weakness by the weak themselves. We know who we are and what we want out of life. We are not afraid to go after what makes life amazing. We are fearless.

Are you fearless? Have you jumped into life with both feet or is one foot swishing the surface getting all the action?

The fastest way to watch your life transform is to begin to have gratitude. Start looking at what is in your life and who is in your life with appreciation. Let people be who they are and move lovingly in your own direction without regret. People come into our lives to teach us lessons and then move on. Sometimes it is hard to recognize when that time has come.

When we are afraid, we keep inviting more and more fearful experiences into our lives. When someone does not appreciate us, we invite more and more of the same if we do not make a decision. If you want to really love your life, love yourself first. Expect the best for yourself, and reject anyone that does not give it you.

Do not allow anything but the best to enter your reality. Stop making excuses for your bad choices, just change them – and that includes people too. It can take time, but the universe always rewards the grateful heart with brand new surprises. Always.

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Five Ways to Get Organized

Friday, December 5th, 2008

I will admit, I love to organize. I love planners, drawer dividers and purse compartments. Anything that helps me move freely and quickly through life attracts me. With all the “stuff” out there to live better lives, I still think the best tool is between your ears.

These are five ways I get mentally organized:

1. I prune. I do. I get rid of old things, unloving relationships and bad hair after thoughtful consideration and honest efforts. Anything in my life that does not add value, is a space sucker (mentally, emotionally and physically). Cut the fat and build the muscle.

2. I avoid judging. Judging is a huge waste of time. I know, as a kid I was quite self-righteous. As an adult, to judge is to claim superiority over another. We are all worthy beings and unique expressions of life. To judge another is an act of unconsciously judging ourselves – we are just projecting it on to another. Once we love and accept ourselves, it feels weird to judge another…we just experience them as they are.

3. I decide. Not a fan of thinking negative things about a person or situation, I go the route of honor. I don’t ask if this situation or person is “good” or “bad”, I ask myself, “Does this honor me”? And if it does not, I stop engaging. I like things simple.

Get organized. :)

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What is Your Passion?

Wednesday, December 3rd, 2008

Life without passion is just not living. What wakes you up, gets you excited or makes you want to be alive and engaged? I have met far too many people that have given up on being or experiencing any kind of real passion in their lives. I see them in seminars and in coaching sessions…why do we believe that a life of passion is unique when it should be the norm?

You know why???… Because to really embrace what your passion is, it will call you to grow, expand and transform yourself into something bigger, better and brighter then before. Only passion can drive you to confront your fears, heal your wounds and redefine who you are in the name of it. That is why it sometimes gets a bad rap. People say “lost” in passion as if its a big error to lose control. What are you controlling; a former version on yourself or a more “acceptable” version for mass approval? If so, then may I ask why? What is the point? What is the payoff really, of a life with no passion or drive toward your greatest aspirations and dreams. We came here to create lives filled with love and joy, that simple. Follow you passion and watch it take you to a better version of yourself while you are loving the ride on the way.

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