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To live creatively, one must be brave.  One must know themselves.  I mean REALLY know themselves.  Too often, people spend most of the time figuring out others before mastering themselves.  They spend time on what is hot or not, who is cool or old and who owns what and why.  Yawn.  When we spend too much time on what is going on outside of us, are we actually trying to avoid what may be whispering to us from the inside?

I will always trust the person who is authentic and sloppy over the poised and fearful.  I often feel like shaking them and saying – PLEASE be yourself, its so much more interesting then this politically correct holograph of every book you read on how to be liked, respected and admired in this world.

Now I certaintly like to read and keep up with things.  Many morsals are fun and interesting.  I also like to learn how to be liked, respected and admired in this world – but with a grain of salt!  We all have to work and get along, so learning ways to better do that is key (ah, I teach it).  But I would never teach a skill that would MASK the true person beneath it.   Ever.

I love new ideas and new lipstick.  I love the deep and the shallow stuff of life.  Texture is what life is all about.   But my greatest value, my most precious time spend is and has always been my inner world.  Becasue at the end of the day, I want to be myself in every situation regardless of who likes it or not.  That is authentic living.  And once we are truly authentic, we can then build creative lives.  A creative life means making a living by being yourself.  How interesting a concept.  One I encourage everyone I meet to entertain.

It is very important to recognize when something needs to be shed in our lives.  When it feels heavy, is holding you back or is no longer aligned with who you are  – or want to be!

If you have a hard time letting something go, the below questions may help:
1. Does the person/circumstance/habit etc. makes me feel good or bad?
2. Does it add to my life or take something away?
3. Is it for my highest good?
4. Does it support me, or break me down?…..and of course, is it worth any more of my time!

Knowing when to “let go” is just as important as knowing when to “hold on”.  It can be even harder to let go if we are habitually attached. Its actually less about what/whom you are giving up, and more about a habit that needs breaking!

The same goes for projecting an ideal image onto a not so great reality.  We get lost in the illusion of perfection we project, and can completely miss the reality of the person/situation until it hits us on the head!

For example:  Did you ever think you were in love with someone only to find out your were in love with the idea of them?  That you never really knew them at all to actually love them (we’ve all had one of those).  Its the same thing.  We can hinge ourselves to our own illusions of perfection and fail to realize the “prize” we hold dear (and cannot let go of) is just a puff in our own head!  That is why…it should be shed!  …I think I just rhymed.